Are No-Fault Divorces Destroying The Ideal of Marriage Between One Man and One Woman?

I have been married to my wife and life partner for 55 years. Sadly, I am the exception rather than the rule.

QUESTION: Why haven’t we made it a priority to support, promote and reward marriage as between one man and one woman, till death do them part?

The first recorded evidence of a marriage ceremony uniting one woman and one man dates from circa 2350 B.C., in Mesopotamia.

The family is the bed rock of any culture and the highest ideal of any society. Marriage is more than a bond between one man and one woman. It is a spiritual, social and cultural construct that requires faith, trust and fidelity forever.

There are many things that destroy a marriage, and with it the family. Among them are:

• Government policies.
• Moral decay.
• Cultural decay.
• The destruction of the “sanctity of marriage” as between one man and one woman.

Government Policies

One of the government policies that has lead to the destruction of marriage as between one man and one woman, and with it the family, is no-fault divorces.

LegalZoom.com defines no-fault divorce as follows:

A no-fault divorce is premised on the idea that one spouse does not have to prove the breakdown of the marriage is the other spouse’s fault, either based on their behavior or mental state.

This idea that no-one is at fault is a big lie. The truth is that either the husband or wife or both are at fault. Placing the fault is a way of punishing the wrong doer. It is a way of preserving the institution and sanctity of marriage.

The following states have no-fault divorce laws. In these states, people do not have the option of asserting the other person is at fault for the divorce.

• California
• Colorado
• District of Columbia
• Florida
• Hawaii
• Indiana
• Iowa
• Kansas
• Kentucky
• Michigan
• Minnesota
• Missouri
• Montana
• Nebraska
• Nevada
• Oregon
• Washington
• Wisconsin

According to LegalZoom.com:

In the rest of the country, you may file for divorce either asserting one of several legal fault grounds or you may file for a no-fault divorce. Of course, every state has its own statutes governing divorce, but generally speaking, legal fault grounds include:

• Addiction or chemical dependency
• Adultery
• Bigamy
• Desertion or abandonment
• Impotence
• Imprisonment of one of the parties to the marriage (and, in some states, criminal convictions)
• Marriage between close relatives (as defined by the statutes of each state)
• Marriage obtained by force or fraud
• Mental abuse or mental cruelty
• Mental illness
• Mental incapacity at the time of the marriage
• Physical abuse or physical cruelty

The Role of the Church and Santified Marriage

The notion of marriage as a sacrament, and not just a contract, can be traced to St. Paul who compared the relationship of a husband and wife to that of Christ and his church.

Ephesians 5:23, 25, 28–31 reads:

“The husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. . . .

“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;. . .

“So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

“For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church.

“For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

“For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh”

Government Gets Involved in Marriage

To understand the history behind the massive and long term movement to infiltrate our institutions and government to destroy the family and marriage watch the below video.

WATCH: The Marxist-Inspired Evil. It’s all about sex.

Marriage began its downfall when government got involved. Before government involvement marriage, “was a private affair, an agreement between families that didn’t require government approval.”

According to the Ancestry.com article Marriage Licenses: More Than Just Permission to Wed:

Marriage licenses are a relatively new invention, dating only to the 19th century.

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States started requiring a license and certificate because marriages have legal ramifications, affecting property, inheritance, and taxes. Couples needed to prove they were unmarried and of marriageable age (usually over 18), sharing some key details to get the go-ahead to wed. And in the 1930s, several U.S. states passed “gin marriage” laws, in response to Prohibition-era worries that people would enter into hasty marriages while under the influence of alcohol. They required couples to wait several days between receiving their license to wed and getting married.

Today government, with the approval of the U.S. Supreme Court, allows men to marry  men and women to marry women. Both concepts have been tried before and failed. Only one man and one woman, since the time of Adam and Eve, have been considered the bedrock of marriage. Without marriage between one man and one woman, for life, there can only be heartbreak and sorrow.

Our uniquely American culture was based upon the ideal of marriage as between one man and one woman. Divorce was considered not just a failure but a threat to our culture and society. Divorce today is heralded by many in Hollywood as a badge of honor. If you haven’t been divorced you ain’t woke enough.

Woe upon  the current culture of infidelity, sinfulness and evil.

Time to bring back marriage as only between one man and one woman. Damn be those who think otherwise for they are doing the work of satan to destroy families.

©Dr. Rich Swier. All rights reserved.

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